Formerly, every woman who will change the status of a mistress lady, there's always the consideration of seedlings, ancestor, and the weight to prospective partners. Now is also still necessary. However, women today have their own calculations when selecting a prospective soul mate.
According to E. Philip Rice in his book entitled Intimate Relationships, Marriages & Family, in determining the spouse need mature consideration and calculation. This calculation can be 'investing' your wedding. In other words, your decisions now that determines your future.
Not always in terms of financially, really. But, also can be calculated based on the personality and character of the him. All depends on your needs and expectations in marriage.
There are many advantages, if we count count down before marriage, among other things: your efforts to adapt to the spouse is not too heavy after marriage, because you can already accept the pros and cons since before boarding the aisle.
Even if new problems arise after marriage, usually the problem can be solved more easily, because you've both understand each other. In other words, you can avoid choosing the wrong partner. That way, you can predict your marriage with him.
So, what needs to be calculated?
- When you feel financially secure is a major factor in choosing a prospective husband, of course, he settled into your target. Given the growing need for mounting, a woman naturally prefers deep pockets mate. They are no longer called matre woman ', but a realistic woman.
- You need to recognize more deeply personal. For example, if he has certain demands after marriage? Or, is he the type who would be invited down to the kitchen or cleaning the house? You'll find out if you can tolerate its demands, or whether he can be invited to share a role in the home or not ..
- Is he worth more open about finances. One thing that should be a 'culture' in financial trouble, both wealth and debt, you both need each other honest about this. Not good to give surprises in terms of finance. Moreover, a bad thing. Well, talk about it openly so that you and your partner agree on a model of financial management.
- Throw away all assume their own habits in the case of couples about the financial outlook. For example, during courtship, he's quite 'generous', did not hesitate to fulfill your wishes. Assuming you, he definitely will not be stingy after marriage. And not you, not necessarily. His name is going out, usually a man willing to spend money, for you. But, after marriage, when it needs more and more, these habits can be changed.
- Property, you should carefully by both the nature and personality of the couple. The men who succeed, usually has the full nature of the struggle, because he's a hard worker and tenacious in trying. They also generally have bearing on future plans, and have established measures to achieve the dream.
