Your partner is often angry? If so, your emotions do not go ignited. If a fire fight the fire would be the worse situation. Find out how to deal with a grumpy spouse, so you do not catch so grumpy as well.
As a partner, you may have tried such a way to get to know the character of a man beloved. There's an expressive kind of guy, there is the quiet. Each type has a style different angry. The things that trigger their anger was different too.
Jerry Deffenbacher, an American psychologist, in his writings, Manage Your Anger, expressed physically and psychologically, the man does have the potential for greater anger than women. Physical man bigger, louder voice, and men tend to superior status.
However, it does not mean this situation could be used as justification for every outrage that they do. Therefore, it is important to understand the character of the couple and know clearly the causes of their anger.
Who is not annoyed facing couples who are emotional or angry. Especially if the cause of emotions that we do not know, and as a partner, willy-nilly, you are the first person who directly felt the impact.
As a first step, first identify what makes emotions ignited. According to Deffenbacher, things that often make a couple of emotions, among others:
- Reprimand to something you did not notice.
- When you suspect things are not done.
- You always bob up and down a small mistake.
- Alluding to the problems that flicked his ego.
After that, begin to melt her heart. How:
- Give her enough time to vent his frustration. Try not to respond with anger as well.
- Once the emotions subsided, do not directly discuss the issues that upset him. Give him time to 'breathe'.
- When the house is quiet, start talking. As before sleep is the best time.
- Try not to force myself to directly solve the problem in a single conversation. When you are tired enough, you can go tomorrow night. But do not let the matter hang too long.
- It is better you study the sensitive moments of the pair. Is not it better to prevent emotions from exploding rather than bothering to deal with anger?
- Coaxing him with style spoiled. When the initial weapon that does not work, invite the children to invite his father joked. Usually, after that emotions are not so protracted.
